As I sit down to write this bog post I have many emotions running through me, most good, some upsetting, some confusing, and some overwhelming. So I thought I would start by looking up Webster’s definition of family and this is what it said,
1. a group of individuals living under one roof and usually under one head : household
2 a: a group of persons of common ancestry : clan
b : a people or group of peoples regarded as deriving from a common stock : race
3 a : a group of people united by certain convictions or a common affiliation : fellowship
Nothing very profound or a life changing “aha” in those definitions, basically a group of people related by blood, or convictions that sometimes live under the same roof. That is a pretty broad category and I guess why we have such a hard time defining what family is, especially here in America. Our immediate family is on a journey of a lifetime and we have purposely added into this journey the meeting with and reconnecting with family and friends across the Nation and making new “family” and friends as we go.
We have had the wonderful gift of being able to have a second chance to grow and restore relationships that we had previously felt were lost to us. God has been working on our stubborn and hard hearts for many years and we have finally asked Him for forgiveness and the second chance of restoration.
We won’t go into the details, as that is not for anyone to know, plus we do not want to bring up negative and painful feelings in our hearts and minds again. But we do want all of you to know that God can bring healing to your heart, if you let Him, it will definitely not be easy and you will have to daily ask for His grace but He can bring joy to your relationships once again. Will they be perfect? No of course not! Will you be able to undo the past hurts, No, but they will heal if you do not focus on the things behind but on things ahead. Can you make new memories that bring healing and joy? Absolutely! Will these relationships be perfect, No, will there still be issues that happen and conflicts to be resolved, of course, but that is our human journey how we respond to these issues. That is one of the major purposes of our lives, the choices we make in our relationships, first, with the Lord and then with others, and then we are held responsible for our choice and how we respond and interact in those relationships, truthfully in the past we responded badly because we were hurt and thought we were in the right and even if we were justified in that, in the end the same result happened, loss of the relationship. We are truly on a journey of love and restoration (we know what some of you are thinking they are from Colorado they must be smoking something, no we aren’t) we just want to hopefully be a blessing to those we interact with. We can just as easily turn this journey into the “F- You” journey and some days have to fight within ourselves to not let that happen, so we are praying these words and promises from Ephesians chapter 4, “Be completely humble and gentle, be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of Spirit through the bond of peace. To be made new in the attitude of our minds and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
This is so very hard and we are no where close to achieving this, some days we are ashamed to say that you would not see a spark of these characteristics in our attitudes but we are praying that each day we can grow a little closer to being these type of people. And we are so thankful to God for giving us second, third, fourth, and infinite chances.
We are also so thankful to our families for giving us a second chance, we are so thankful for each and everyone of you, new and old, and for what you mean to our lives and hearts. Your have honored us with many blessings and much love. We thank our God for each one of you and for the ones that we still our in the process of meeting, we are thankful for you and honored to get to know you.
Remember it is never to late to let God bring healing to your heart and restoration to your relationships. We love you all and hope you will share your stories of healing and restoration with us or even your struggles so we can support you on your journey.
About my emotions and struggles as I sat down to write this post they have subsided as I realized that I am blessed with a great big wonderful family, those by blood, those by marriage, by my faith, by my convictions, those that share my same ideals and likes, those I have not even met yet but am looking forward to meeting. So I guess I did have a big “aha” moment.
Living Life with Faith, Trust and a Little Bit of Pixie Dust